Just Say “No”

Wednesday, October 25, 2017

If I’ve learned anything in the past 25 years, it’s that I provide the greatest value to my team when I say no. It’s easy to say yes. It’s popular to say yes. But very often, it’s poor leadership.

That’s a really painful concept, because, as C-level executives, we’re used to stoking and cheerleading creativity. We repeat the mantras “there are no bad ideas” and “fail early and often.”

But, here’s the rub. Every single person in your company is being bombarded by information. Think about the array of communication channels that your team members must manage—meetings, walk-ins, email, texts, social media, blog posts (like this one), magazines, podcasts, and phone calls. Through all those channels come ideas and projects that they must filter and triage to decide how to allocate their time. Human beings are notoriously flawed at assessing their ability to multitask. We simply can’t do it. And every time we jump back and forth between projects, we’re using time and memory to switch gears. It’s remarkably inefficient.

When we, as leaders, direct or approve the exploration of too many projects, we are drowning and depressing our talent. The people who work for us want to succeed, but when we overcommit them, we are basically sending one or more of the following messages:

  • “I expect you to work more hours than I am willing to pay for.”
  • “You are unproductive and can’t complete the tasks that are expected.”
  • “Please accomplish your work with mediocrity.”
  • “I don’t know what’s important—you decide.”

Ultimately, when we, as leaders, fail to say no, we are not marshalling sufficient resources to say yes to the things that really matter. True strategy is about deciding what you are not going to do.

So how do you say no in a way that empowers staff? Here are two quick suggestions:

  • Ask questions that encourage evaluation of tradeoffs. “How might this idea improve the outcome of our work? How does this save us time or money? What program that has run its course should we stop doing to make room for this new, better program?”
  • Use a priority matrix. Gather your team together with all the potential projects under consideration and weigh the resource demand against the impact on mission.








The projects in the upper left are the winners. Less resource demand, more impact on mission. But pay extra attention to the ones on the lower right. These are frequently the holdovers that are being done because they have always been done. Or they have an overly vocal advocate. But they are resource drains and candidates for your “to-don’t” list.

So while just saying no may not feel good in the moment, the talent in your organization will ultimately thank you for the strategic leadership, empowerment, and time to do the big things well.

About the Author
Tom Kaiden is the chief operating officer of Visit Alexandria, responsible for strategy, research, partnerships, finance, and administration. Prior to joining Visit Alexandria, Tom led the Greater Philadelphia Cultural Alliance, the marketing, research, and advocacy association for 300 regional cultural organizations, serving as president (2010-2013) and chief operating officer (2001-2010). Before joining the Cultural Alliance, Tom was the executive director of the Stowe (Vermont) Area Association, where he helped grow four-season revenue at the "Ski Capital of the East" to the point where summer and fall outpaced winter.

Tom holds an MBA from Cornell University and a BA in economics from the University of Connecticut. Tom is a contributor to ATD's Work the Problem: How Experts Tackle Workplace Challenges published in 2018. He and his wife, Sue, are parents to two grown children, Andy and Claire, and a cheerful Labrador retriever that refuses to swim or retrieve.
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