I was as guilty as anybody of chasing achievement. I defined myself by my job and the money I was making. Had someone asked me who I was without those things, I would have had no answer. As with the overwhelming majority of my clients, my life had been an achievement race to secure a sense of personal value. As with so many of them, much of my value became linked to external markers of success. If I work with famous people, then I must be someone special. If the world’s best athletes request my services, then I must be someone of value. If I build my own successful business, then I must be a success as a person.