My name is Lisa, and I am a recovering control freak. Recovering, because I don't think one ever totally exorcises the control freak instinct. We may push it aside for a while, but it always reappears when situations get tough, or when struck by the romance of soapbox coaching.
Shakespeare himself could not have written as good a soliloquy as I have heard from fired-up coaches thinking they were Henry V ready to battle the French. Henry was a ruler, not a coach. We are coaches, not rulers.